One of the things I do as a person is to hang onto the things that have hurt me. I think most people do this. We were hurt and there are two good reasons we don’t forget it. First we don’t want to be hurt again and secondly we always know exactly what or whom to blame for our pain.
Pain is temporary, and at some point it will stop hurting and what you are left with then is up to you. You decide how long-lasting the lessons you learn are. Life is hard classroom and the hard lessons provide valuable intelligence into how to play this game. In the end it is a game that can’t be won, it can only be played. Not one of us are going to get out of it alive.